Stories.
Just back from visiting my parents and sister,
I almost felt like a child of ten again,
Each time I leave my home I feel so bad about what I am missing all the time. I left home at the age of ten and haven't had an extended stay at home until now. And now that my job is of this nature, I cant really hope to have that privilege later too..
That aside, my community, the Nairs of kerala, and the traditional family that I live in have a lot of stories about them, and each time I go home , it is a newer experience and an exposure to old stories some forgotten for years and some newly heard.
My family name is Naduvani roughly translated from Malayalam to English, it means the 'rulers of the land' It is perhaps the last remnant of a once powerful NaduVazhi?... The stories of my land and family like any old story lies entwined in magic and mystery,
It is said that the family came to the central kerala from Malabar (northern kerala) and settled there, and that during a time when our Thaivazhi (the matrilineal line of inheritance which determines the tharavadu or family name) was at the end of line due to scarcity of girls born in the family we had to adopt a girl from the Azhvancheri (an old and famous family of shivite brahmins) to continue our line. We have a kavu [a temple to the goddess of durga] that is associated with the family name called Naduvani kavu where along with goddess durga, our paradaivam and karanavanmar [ancestral deity and our ancestors] are worshipped.
The kavu has an interesting history, It is said that the bhagavathi [goddess] of the temple was one of three heavenly sisters, and the other sisters are also worshipped in nearby kavu's the Oldest of the sisters are supposed to be a very angry person, and hence the temple does not have a roof over it so that the deity sits under the natural elements. Our goddess we consider her as our heavenly mother, but like any mother, she too got angry once, It is said that in the annual festival in which the velichappad [the oracle] was enacting the old purana story of darika vadham [killing of a demon] as a drama-ritual the person acting the part of the demon was killed by the velichappad using the sacred sword [pallival] and was dumped into the well nearby, The annual ritual drama was stopped from then on, and the sacred sword and chilambu [anklet] of devi was then on kept in our tharavadu [ancestral home]. These things were known to the eldest members of the family alone, but when it a prashnam [prophesy through jyothisham according to Indian tradition] was done, these things were pointed out again with out any promptings from our part.
It is also said that our family has another ancestral temple [of shiva] some where in north malabar where our members are supposed to visit.
We Nairs have a matrilineal society and according to it, the family property and the rule of it goes into the hands of the eldest female member of the Thaivazhi. After marriage, the bride-groom is supposed to stay with the bride's family unlike the custom of the majority of world. The females also have greater say in ending the marriage and choosing a new bride-groom if they so wish. This matrilineal form of inheritance meant that while the rest of India wishes for a male child to be born to be the inheritor, the Nair family wishes for a female child to carry forward their thaivazhi. The right to do poojas [worship] in the Tharavadu kavu's etc are with the females. They were also taught the vedas and martial arts like kalari if they so wished.
Though my immediate family lives in the house of Naduvani, we are a different thaivazhi when considered in the strict matrilineal sense, My grand father (mother's father) is of the Naduvani stock while my grand mom (mother's mother) is of chanacham veedu of cherthala (and the sub family padinjare kunnumpuram). That means that though we live in the naduvani veedu, we are of the chanacham veedu (another old tharavadu but from the southern kerala). My mom tells me that as a member family of chanacham veedu, we get invitation from the festival of ancestral deities from chanacham veedu also every year. My father is of a tharavadu called elangikkamali and the sub-family group pookkattupadi.
We also have a sarpakkavu [temple for a personal deity in the form of snake] In our family home.
More interesting details as and when I remember more....